5 Tips for Flirting Like a Pro
Posted on 15th May 2017 @ 10:03 AM
Improve your seduction skills
By: Zoe Wilder
The key to successful flirting is to have fun with it. You want the object of your affection to be aware of your interest with the blink of your eye, the brush of your hand and the whisper of your voice. Keep in mind that you may only have a moment to make your intentions clear. And while flirting is an effective way to convey your feelings, you have to strike a delicate balance between showing that you’re intrigued and not revealing too much.
Survey Your Domain
You can miss some wonderful interactions if you stand in one place. You can gauge where to stand and places to avoid by taking a leisurely walk. Spend some quality time assessing the situation to see who truly catches your eye. The last thing you want to do is miss out on an enchanting opportunity because you were too timid to work the room.
Pay Attention to Body Language
Once you’ve selected your flirtee, gaze meaningfully or smile with your eyes without being too intense. After you establish good eye contact, look away from time to time and smile slowly rather than grinning from ear to ear. Exhibiting some excitement is okay, but acting coy will likely garner better results. Put your phone away. If you're checking your social media updates every two seconds, you risk losing interest and eye contact. You don't want anything to interfere with the art of conversation once it starts. So keep your arms open to emanate an inviting signal. If the other person leans in toward you, you know you're making the right moves.
Initiate Good Conversation
Introduce yourself. Keep the conversation light, opting for open questions like "What are you doing this weekend?" or "Who's your favorite band and why?" to avoid awkward silences and encourage more than one-word responses. You also don’t want to talk about yourself too much. Toss out some genuine compliments early on in the conversation so that the other person knows you are interested in more than just friendship. Keep the vibes positive. This isn't the time to make crass jokes or use trite pick-up lines. Don't do too much too soon. For example, wait until much later to bring up handcuffs and condoms!
While some nervous gestures may indicate an attraction, such as playing with your hair or picking at an invisible piece of lint on your jeans, keep these habits to a minimum and make sure your demeanor is relaxed. Casually, brush the other person's forearm as if you accidentally touched each other. Offer up your phone number while suggesting fun activities the two of you can enjoy together. Don't be afraid to show a bit of enthusiasm, but try to stay cool, calm and collected throughout the interaction.
If the conversation goes well and your body language cues are in sync with your flirtee, you're on the right track and should keep doing what you're doing. But remember that not all situations will work out in your favor. If your interaction feels strained and awkward, simply say good night and gracefully walk away. Don’t take it personally. Not everyone is ready to welcome advances, and that's okay. Don't fight the vibe.