Sometimes breaking up with a partner can feel like the end of the world. Even if it was your decision to end things, it can still be heart-breaking and leave you feeling lonely and empty. The good news (although it’s hard to believe at this point) is that breaking up can actually be good for you, and could hold the key to a new stage of your life, where you feel happier and fulfilled. Whether your relationship has reached its end or you are thinking of breaking things off but are unsure, here are 7 surprising benefits of ending a relationship that isn’t leading anywhere:
You can keep the memories
Just because you break up with a partner, it doesn’t mean that you have to completely eliminate them your mind forever. Many people see the end of relationships as an opportunity to talk negatively about their ex and even spread stories about them to close friends. A healthier way to end a relationship, however, is to keep all the positive memories at the forefront of your mind, and try to forgive and forget as soon as possible. This will help you to nurture healthier relationships going forward into the future.
You can learn from past mistakes
Nobody is perfect and mistakes are bound to take place in every relationship. Whether the reasons why you broke up were mainly yours or your partners, try to understand what went wrong so that you can ensure these things don’t occur in your new relationship. With time, you may come to realise that certain situations and characteristics from your partner wasn’t right for you and will help you look out for these traits when dating other people.
You can stop feeling stressed
There is nothing worse than feeling trapped in an unhealthy relationship, which can fill you with negative emotions such as guilt, anxiety and resentment. Making a decision to end things can be scary; however, it can also have positive effects on your health – both mentally and physically as you start to eliminate these bad feelings from your life.
You can spend more time with friends and family
No matter how you look at it, the vast majority of your recent life up until now, will have been taken up either spending time with your partner, talking to your partner on the phone or thinking about your partner’s whereabouts. Now that you have decided to start afresh, focus on spending time with other loved ones like close friends or family members that you have might not have seen for some time. Arrange a mini break with a group of friends or take a week off work to go and visit your parents – you will soon realise what you have been missing out on.
You can spend more time with yourself
Not only is it important to surround yourself with friends and family following a break up, it’s also important to take some time for yourself to become at one. Spending time alone can be very therapeutic and can help to cleanse your mind, giving you time to reflect and plan for the future. Take time to read a book, watch some comedy or practice some yoga at home. Remember, that taking care of yourself and enjoying the small things in life can have a huge impact moving forward.
You can focus on new goals
As the famous quote goes “When one door closes, another one opens”. Perhaps the end of your relationship could also signal that it’s time to make other changes in your life. This could include a new career, moving house or taking up a new hobby. Whatever your new goal is, use this opportunity to give your life a detox and focus your energy on new opportunities.
You can meet someone new
Although you might not be in a hurry to find a new partner, chances are that in time you will feel more open about the opportunity of finding someone new. Instead of actively trying to find a new partner, keep an active social life by going out with friends, working out in the gym, and attending exhibitions and events – this way you never know who you might meet in the near future!