5 Ways Watching Porn Together Can Improve Your Relationship

Pornography is more widely available than ever before. No matter your thoughts on adult films, there’s no denying that a lot of people watch them regularly. In 2017, the world’s biggest porn site, Pornhub, published statistics for the previous year that showed there were over 64 million visits to the website per day (729 per second), and a total of nearly 4.6billion hours of adult content were watched (Pornhub, Jan 2017).

While pornography may not be for everyone, watching some adult content every now and then can actually help change your relationship for the better. Here are five ways in which watching porn could have benefits for your partnership.

It’s a Way to Learn About Each Other

Most relationships involve sharing intimate thoughts and confiding in one another. But it is not always that simple, especially when it comes to sexual fantasies and secret kinks. Many people are shy when it comes to sharing their innermost sexual desires, but watching porn together could a stepping stone in the right direction, as it may prompt conversation you might not normally have and give you the confidence to open up about your own fantasies. Even better, you may find you have a mutual love of something you didn’t think you could bring up with your lover.It Can Change Your Foreplay

Depending on your personal preference, foreplay can be an exciting component of your sexual routine. Watching porn together can not only shake up your foreplay routine, but it can help when you are pressed for time. In 2006, a study in Canada found that men and women reach peak sexual arousal in around 10 minutes while watching pornography, significantly quicker than from foreplay alone (New Scientist, 2006).

The notion of a ‘quickie’ may be less than romantic for some, but the fact of the matter is, for those with children or with more pressing matters to attend to, it may be the only option for them to connect on a physical level. Plus, it can be a fun and sexy alternative to a longer love-making session.

Try experiencing the exciting sensation of watching an adult film together while exploring one another’s bodies with a sensual massage; perhaps using a Durex massage gel or lubricant.

Encourage Openness & Honesty

Infidelity is a problem that affects many relationships. A study conducted by Reboot Online found that one in five Brits has had an affair at some point in their lifetime. Discussing pornography and watching it together can encourage an atmosphere of openness and honesty that lends itself to a healthier partnership. If something is forbidden, looking at another person for example, it’s more likely that this would put a strain on your relationship and lead to a state of secrecy that isn’t beneficial in the long run.

It’s Something You Can Do Together

In the 21st Century it’s difficult to spend quality time with your partner. With many people balancing careers, families and other interests, the stress of daily life can cause you to take your relationship for granted and neglect your sex life.

Watching porn together might seem like an unorthodox hobby to try out, but it could be a way to spend more time together; especially if one or both of you already watches adult films as a solo activity. Even if it doesn’t immediately prompt you to have sex, sharing in each other’s experience of watching porn may bring you closer as a couple.

Banish the Stigma

No one is going to be surprised if pornography brings up negative connotations, but creating a negative atmosphere in your relationship because your partner watches adult films isn’t going to anything for the health of your union.

Approach the subject sensitively and ask why they watch it. If the situation doesn’t look like it’s going to rectify itself, try to banish your stigma and ask to watch an adult film with them. There’s a 50/50 chance you’ll change your mind and learn something new about your lover and perhaps yourself in the process.

References:

Pornhub, 2017, Pornhub’s 2016 Year in Review

New Scientist, 2006, Women Become Sexually Aroused As Quickly As Men

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