Tips for Surviving a Long-Distance Relationship

Long distance love can be challenging, but rewarding.

Tips for Surviving a Long-Distance Relationship

By: Zoe Wilder

Long-distance relationships have some obvious drawbacks. Seriously, it’s no fun surviving lengths of time without physical affection – and if you need a plus one on short notice, your long-distance partner might not be there for you. The good news is that if you’re both committed to the relationship and remain flexible, there are ways to nurture this type of arrangement that can lead to a strong, vibrant and long-lasting future.

Video Chat

Thanks to modern technology, there are numerous ways to video chat. With smartphones, you can do it practically anywhere – while you shop, visit a museum or during a family dinner. What’s key is communication. Be sure to discuss how often you’d both like to connect, and when to connect – especially if you are in different time zones. Coming up with a schedule can help ensure that you don’t overdo it because some people value free time and time with friends more than others. While you’ll want to share things with your long-distance partner, constant chat demands can feel suffocating.

Short and Sweet Communication

Long Skype sessions aren’t always necessary to stay close and in touch. There’s also texting, sexting and good old-fashioned phone calls. Mix it up – and be sure to tell your partner what works best for you. Don’t be afraid to say if you need more or less communication. Feeling dissatisfied and doing a slow burn will hurt your relationship more than honesty.

Send Care Packages

Even though you can’t be together, you can send expressions of your appreciation and desire for each other. Anything goes here. Think handwritten cards, clothes, stuffed animals, cookies, chocolates and pictures. Giving gifts is a great way to let your partner know you care. Plus, it helps keep the memory of your love alive and well. Be sure to include a heartfelt – or humorous – love note so there's something to read when the heart gets lonely.

Don’t Be a Loner or Homebody

Often in long-term relationships, there’s an inclination to stay home. However, if your relationship is a long-distance one, staying home alone isn’t always the way to go. While you won’t want to go out with single friends who are looking to hook-up, or intrude on coupled friends who have what you don’t, if you’re open about your situation, your friends and family are likely to make time for you. Don’t turn down dinner invitations, house parties and happy hours with those who care. Or, you can be the one to extend the invitations. Plan your own dinner party or suggest a fun day or night out.

Video Sex

Heat things up with your long-distance partner by engaging in video sex. You can masturbate together during a video chat. Just slip some goodies like the Durex® Play® Allure® Intimate Massager and Massage & Play Intensify lubricant in the next care package you send – and then have some fun, remembering that the sky’s the limit. Experiment with role play. Or try some popular apps like Snapchat or Vine. Short videos and sexy pictures can get the blood pumping. Virtual flirting is a fun way to increase your desire for each other when you're apart.




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