Secrets to Good Sex
Posted on 15th May 2017 @ 10:03 AM
Good sex is easy to have when you're privy to some simple secrets.
By: Zoe Wilder
Everyone is different. People crave different sensations, have varying desires and are turned on by different situations. For that reason, there's no set of strict rules for having good sex. However, good – or even great – sex isn't a hard code to crack. In fact, it's quite simple when you're privy to a few key secrets. Just grab your partner and get to work. The age-old mantra, "Practice makes perfect!" definitely applies.
Communication is key to any healthy relationship especially when you're between the sheets. Since everyone is unique, it may take a little bit of time to learn what your lover enjoys. Be mindful. Be sincere. Be open. Be uninhibited. Be verbal. But don't be afraid to let your partner know how and what you're feeling. If you don't like a certain position, speak up. If you do like a position, speak up. There's a learning curve, so keep in mind that you'll be learning new things as you go along.
Experimenting with different sex toys is a fun way to stimulate the senses and learn what makes you and your partner really hot and bothered. The Durex® Ring of Bliss [WU1] is perfect for the task at hand with a vibrator to add to your sexual adventures. While you're at it, try some new positions and get creative. Perhaps you’d like your lover covered in whipped cream – with a cherry on top. If so, just go for it.
Role play is an excellent way for fantasies to meet reality. Costumes and props can add to the experience, but they aren't necessary. All you need is your imagination to create a role-playing scenario. Anything goes here – as long as you’re both into it and there’s no physical or emotional harm done. Try some tried-and-true favorites like teacher/student and nurse/patient scenarios, or create your own scenes that might involve vampires, superheroes or even sexy aliens. But if acting out doesn’t turn on your sexy switch, consider just taking sex out of the bedroom and explore new lusty, private locales with your lover – like an isolated nature trail or a secluded rooftop under the stars.
While having off-the-chart sex can be serious business, it's important to laugh, play and smile while you’re at it. At the end of the day, it's all about fun, safe and responsible sex. If an inappropriate noise occurs, a new position doesn’t go as planned or a role-playing scenario is a dud, roll with it. Find humor in it. Sex can be messy and unpredictable – and that's okay! Don't get hung up on perfection. Enjoy exploring each other’s bodies because that's what it’s really all about.
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