How to Have Better Sex
Posted on 15th May 2017 @ 9:03 AM
It's good to keep things shaken and stirred: How to make sex better for both of you.
One of the most common questions sent to the romantic advice pages is, "How can I keep the spice in my relationship?" While "happily ever after" is a lovely fairytale ending, in reality, most couples struggle to keep things passionate long term. Try these techniques to learn how to have better sex and help keep boredom at bay.
"Try new positions, different foreplay techniques or introduce a bit of kink to the equation."
- Look after yourself. Many people absorb themselves into a relationship putting their lover's needs first. While it may seem counter-intuitive, this can be a massive turn-off, and make a lover feel trapped. If you're happy, independent and secure, you'll be a lot more desirable.
- Look after your lover. In the early days, people tend to woo each other. Once you've "won" your partner's heart, it's easy to take it for granted. Seduce your lover, whether with praise, small thoughtful gifts, foot rubs or whatever else makes them feel good.
- Be active. Loss of libido is often linked to lifestyle. Exercising together will get your blood pumping and make you fit for the job of learning how to make sex better for both of you.
- Be healthy. Poor diet, drinking, drugs (legal and illegal), lack of sleep and general lack of fitness will all make the libido flag. You probably won't be able to figure out how to have better sex if you get winded just thinking of it.
- Kiss. Most relationships start with a lot of kissing but this often wanes over time. When you kiss, you are bringing yourself up close and personal with your partner's pheromones — sexual attraction chemicals — which will boost desire.
- Show yourself off. Pamper your body so you're as well-groomed as you were in those first dates — and flaunt it in flattering underwear or lingerie.
- Mix it up. Couples tend to explore a lot in the early days but once you've found what works, it can be easy to get stuck in a rut. Try new positions, toys, different foreplay techniques or introduce a bit of kink to the equation. Or, try all the above.
- Change roles. Many people fall into being either the active or passive partner in sex. Swap places — if you usually initiate sex, urge your lover to make the first move. And if your partner leads the way, pounce on them instead.
- Share fantasies. Great sex involves the brain as well as the body so engage yours.
- Be romantic. Sex and love work together. The more you know your lover, the more sexually honest you can be. Remember this and there's no reason sex shouldn't get better with every passing day. Learning how to make sex better should be a quest for the two fo you to explore together.